In the world of sex, fetishes, and fantasies are generally considered taboo. Even while studies and research indicate that they’re not very uncommon, your partner is probably the ideal person to talk to about your sexual fantasies. Even yet, at first, it could seem difficult to know how to tell someone about your sexual thoughts. You might be at a loss for what to ask, how to ask it, or how to answer if this is a subject you have never discussed before. You’re in luck since we’ve included a brief guide on how to talk to your partner about your sexual aspirations.
Keep Judgement at Bay
Before revealing your fetishes to your spouse, you must be ready to accept theirs as well. Fetishes and fantasies aren’t always of the person’s choosing. It’s crucial to ensure you’re prepared to embrace the person you love despite the things that turn them on. That does not imply, however, that you agree to partake in the actions or experiences they describe.
Accepting your partner’s fantasy just entails giving them your whole attention. Think about if you can tolerate your partner if they have a fetish that you don’t understand or whether you can handle your spouse telling you that they enjoy Dom/Sub relationships, for example.
Set and Respect Boundaries
Everyone would be able to indulge their fetishes and fantasies with their partner’s support in today’s world. But as we’ve just established, everyone has different sexual desires, so we can nearly guarantee that you and your lover won’t agree on every single turn on you talk about. Make careful to investigate your own sexual fetishes before learning more about your partner’s.
It’s crucial to understand what motivates you and your relationship and what doesn’t. You’ll benefit from this in two ways. First, you’ll be able to express your sexual desires to your partner in a way that they can understand, and you’ll be able to consent to the fantasies they share that you find acceptable while expressing your boundaries in areas where you are uncomfortable.
Be an Active Listener
The sharing of sexual fantasies might be challenging. Whoever is speaking or listening may find this to be true. Because of this, it’s crucial to pay attention and reply consciously while actively listening. Listening to your partner differs from actually hearing what they have to say.
Make sure you’re doing everything in your power to pay attention to your partner when they’re talking about their desires. This includes making eye contact, not interrupting them when they’re speaking, and repeating what they said back to them to make sure you heard. You must be selective with your words when it is your turn to speak.
Use language that accepts your spouse for who they are you while yet respecting your own boundaries. Say things like, “I understand that BDSM turns you on, but I do not share that fetish.” I’m not ready to explore that fetish right now, but maybe later, we can talk about the components of it that you find more appealing. How you react to your partner will determine how they respond to you. Finding out what sexual fantasies you and your spouse could share has wider implications. Even if your obsessions are different, planning positive reactions in advance will help you maintain a fulfilling sexual connection.…